Yes.

after∙light was created with the understanding that grief rarely moves in a straight line, and that “complex grief” is often a natural response to an experience that overwhelmed the heart.

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If your grief involves:
– unresolved emotions
– difficult relational dynamics
– sudden or traumatic passing
– years of something unspoken
– a sense that your life “paused” around the loss

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…this work can support you in meeting the layers one at a time, without flooding or forcing anything to move before you’re ready.

The breath offers a pathway that is gentle, paced, and self-regulating.

after∙light does not create or chase altered states.
However, when emotional density softens, your sensitivity increases.

In that clearer internal landscape, people often perceive:

– symbolic imagery
– a sense of presence
– intuitive understanding
– sudden clarity
– words or impressions that feel meaningful

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These experiences are not “contact” in a mediumistic sense.
They arise from your inner world - the deeper intelligence that holds memory, connection, and unfinished threads.

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The breath simply makes space for what is already there.

Grief has no timeline.

Shock, responsibility, or emotional survival can delay expression for years.
When the body finally feels safe enough, old grief often rises as if it were recent.

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after∙light supports this beautifully because it doesn’t rely on memory or story.
The breath works with what your system is holding right now, not what happened then.
Old grief can feel surprisingly fresh, and the breath gives it a pathway to move without overwhelm.

You don’t need a clear definition.
Many people come with a feeling they can’t quite name - heaviness, distance, emotional static, a sense of something unfinished.

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If something inside you feels tight, muted, or unexpressed, the breath will meet it gently.

Yes.
Dreams often carry the material your conscious mind hasn’t fully processed.

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After a session, people sometimes report:
– vivid dreams
– symbolic imagery
– seeing or feeling the person who passed
– emotional themes resurfacing
– unusually peaceful sleep

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You don’t need to interpret anything.
Your system is simply reorganising itself.

Connection, in this work, is not about reaching outward.
It is about clearing the internal space that allows you to sense what remains - memory, love, understanding, or the subtle continuity of relationship.

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It may feel like:
– warmth
– clarity
– a soft recognition
– a moment of peace
– a sense that something “clicked”

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Contact is not something we manufacture.
It’s something you become quiet enough to feel.

There is no standard pacing, but common rhythms are:

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– every 1–2 weeks if you’re in an active grieving phase
– monthly for ongoing emotional clarity or gentle connection
– as needed if your grief comes in waves

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The breath works cumulatively, but also respectfully - you can give yourself as much space as you need.

No.
Therapy works primarily through conversation and cognitive or emotional exploration.

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after∙light works through:
– the breath
– the nervous system
– the body’s internal intelligence
– subtle layers of memory and connection

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It can complement therapy beautifully but is not a replacement for psychological or medical support.
Many people work with both, letting each modality touch a different part of their experience.

A quiet session is still a session.
Some of the deepest shifts happen when very little appears to be occurring externally.

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You may notice:
– softness
– groundedness
– spaciousness
– a clearer breath
– understanding that arrives later

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The breath continues reorganising long after the session ends.

The work is intentionally paced to avoid overwhelm.
Matthew guides the breath so your system stays regulated and safe, easing intensity before it rises.

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If at any point you feel uncomfortable, you will be guided back to grounding and steadiness. 

Most people can participate safely, with the exception of:

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– active psychosis
– bipolar or schizophrenia
– untreated mania
– severe dissociation
– high-risk pregnancy
– certain cardiovascular conditions

– uncontrolled diabetes 

– recent surgery 

– glaucoma or detached retina 

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If you are unsure, please reach out privately and we can explore whether this work is appropriate for you right now.

Yes.
after∙light also supports emotional processing around:

– breakups
– estrangement
– identity shifts
– life transitions
– endings of any kind

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Grief is not limited to physical loss.

Absolutely.
While the breath is the main pathway and ongoing connection to it is encouraged, you can speak whenever something important arises.

Your words often help guide the next layer of the work.

Beginners often find this approach easier than they expect.
The breath pattern is simple, intuitive, and guided throughout.
You don’t need prior experience or technical understanding.

No.
The work meets you wherever you stand.
Some people approach this through spirituality, some through psychology, some through simple curiosity about the breath.

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after∙light does not impose belief - it simply opens space for what feels true to you.